By James W. Falcon, MSOL, CLSSBB
Originally published Aug. 4, 2023 | Revised Aug 11, 2023
In a recent coaching session, as I was assisting a client to develop more confidence in their communicative ability I inadvertently mention a number of topic quite randomly. And, in so doing the mentioning of the topics we’re of no consequence until a very strange sense of
sight occurred. During exchange and without any prompts or prayers, I could see the words I spoke in an entirely new way. It was as if the mentioning of the topics were like the realization of a puzzle enthusiast’s excitement when they it dawns on them that the puzzle pieces they were aimlessly moving around were actually a very important part of the box top’s graphic once girly joined together. The words I uttered (self-love, boundaries, inner wealth, conversation, and relational energy) were those puzzle pieces and the thing they created, once snapped in place, formed a process or a continuum of sorts. All of a sudden the randomness was far from random and the aimlessness had a very real target. I explained to my client that self-love is such an extraordinary basis for personal growth and development. And, that our cultivation of self-love facilitates frequent deposits into a place deep inside of us as human beings that I referred to in my most recent book, “The Self-Love Practitioner, as “inner wealth.”( p. 84). I wrote the following: [inner wealth] is about cultivating health and well-being from the inside out (Wald, 2020, as cited in Falcon, 2022). A 2020, Medium.com post entitled, “ A rich inner life is a life worth pursuing,” using the phrase “ a rich inner life” as the equivalent to “inner wealth. The post provides additional insight by offering the following…
A rich inner life is a life worth pursuing. It’s a life of being attuned to yourself. It’s about how connected someone is with every aspect of their inner self, from thoughts, creativity, logic, dreams, and many more. A rich inner life equals happiness, the kind that doesn’t need a lot to be achieved. It is about being rich within, not just material things. It’s the kind of wealth that won’t get taken away from someone easily. Someone with a rich inner life is multifaceted. They’re the opposite of superficial. As you dig deeper, there will be still a lot more to reveal. Someone with a rich inner life is never boring. But not to be mistaken, some people with rich inner life may look like they are not interesting from the outside (Medium.com, 2020).
Having exercised a modicum of scholastic responsibility, I digress in order to return to the exchange I had with my client. I went on to explain that self-love facilitates the accumulation of this thing called inner wealth and inner wealth is the pool from which we draw in adverse times and circumstances as well as daily interactions in order to express ourselves from the understanding we have gained from the codependency of self-love & boundaries. As a result we tend to express that understanding unconsciously in very practical matters in which we find ourselves. Ultimately our conversations become saturated with boundaries based expressions because we are intimately acquainted with what is at risk(therefore we make a withdrawal from our inner wealth and we are least likely to be inhibited and more likely to boldly express ourselves as-a-matter of-factly as possible each time the circumstances prompt us to do so. Relational energy-the last of the random phrases, is explained in an undated post on the Oxfordreview.com website as…
Relational energy refers to the positive feeling and sense of increased resourcefulness experienced as a direct result of an interaction with someone else. Some people seem to increase our energy, positivity and sense of resourcefulness whilst others either have no impact or drain our energy(Oxford review.com, undated).
Although relational energy is a very new term and study, it exists and is generally found in work environments and social settings as an invisible, non-tangible force that has labelled as a workplace resource because it Emirates from a carrier to others in the form of encouragement or empowerment. I helped my client to understand that not only will his sense of self be enhance but from self-love to relational energy his actions and behavior and eventually his conversation will be enhanced and wielded like a tool in the hands of skilled tradesman. That interconnectedness I termed as the self-love continuum-a self sustaining, self generating and regenerating flow that fuels who and what we are, what do as well as what we say. So, there you have it. A fitting end to a typical Coach client exchange that gave birth to a term and a concept that I can only hope reverberates in the halls of learning institutions and finds a place in coaching lexicons for many, many years to com. So, if you or someone you know needs the assistance of an experienced, research savvy, certified life coach, let me. It just so happens that I know a guy. Lol.
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James W. Falcon, MSOL, CLSSBB, CMLC is Certified Master Life Coach and holds certifications in 15 different coaching areas, including a Lean Six Sigma Black Belt. He is also the founder & principal life coach of a New Horizon Life Coaching Products & Virtual Services-a 5-Star coaching practice that provides coaching support for life, relationships, business and career related goal pursuits. The practice is a subsidiary of his helps network, Encouragement Is Key, 2023.
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